Every one of us is a ‘work in progress’. We move slowly but surely through our lives and change is inevitable. Without doubt some people seem to have a better handle on the direction they are going in, and their life changes for the better. However, others get stuck in the daily grind and their life stutters and stalls. Unfortunately, the life these people have is probably not the one they would have hoped for.
If your life was moving in the right direction, what sort of things would you be doing and what sort of person would you be? These questions tap into your ‘values’. According to Harvard Psychologist, Kelly McGonigal, “Writing about your values is one of the most effective psychological interventions ever studied”. The research suggests that writing about your values for just ten minutes can have an impact on your future happiness and health.
So, what direction are you heading in? Is it moving towards what is important to you? What experiences add value to your life? What would you do in your life if you were really confident? What are your important relationships and what kind of person do you want to be in them? Another interesting angle on this is to imagine yourself in ten years’ time looking back at how you are living your life now. As you look back at yourself, ask yourself, “What would I like to have done more of?” and “What do I wish I had done differently?” Trying to get a sense of what matters in your life can be really important. You may find there is a big gap between your life’s current direction and your values. But at least you know the direction you need to be heading.
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