Many of us can become pretty spooked out by not knowing what is around the corner. Life is full of unknowns, such as facing job threats, health scares, financial worries or political decisions. We fear having to leave our comfort bubble and our mind goes into overdrive with negative predictions. What can we do?
Firstly, continue to move towards what is important in your life. The future may be uncertain, but the present moment is what is certain. In this moment, think of what you want your life to be about and move yourself in that direction, even though you don’t know what may happen. Keep looking after yourself and your loved ones.
Secondly, focus on what you can influence or control. Find your wiggle room and take what action you can. Taking action in the face of ongoing or upcoming stress is one of the most powerful things you can do. It gives you a sense of control. Not taking action will heighten your stress.
Thirdly, most of the fear of the unknown comes from the stories being spun by your mind. In order to balance the stories of impending catastrophe, remind yourself of previous ‘crucible’ moments where you have survived life challenges. All of the research suggests that humans tend to under-estimate their resilience. Then, flexibly run through the future scenarios, including the worst-case, the best-case and the most likely. Consider what you could do in each and think about what steps you can take to influence each of these outcomes.
We shouldn’t pretend that uncertainly is not a challenge and can feel scary. But we should keep ‘reality checking’ and countering the mind’s negative stories. We also should take responsibility for what we can change and take the right action.
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