The Russian playwright Anton Chekhov is alleged to have said, “Any idiot can face a crisis — it’s this day-to-day living that wears you out”. We can all recognise this. You see mostly people can endure major traumas and heartaches with great resilience. They may have a rough time in the process, but invariably they end up in a stronger position. We are pretty robust creatures when it comes to the big things that happen to us.
Most of us rarely get through a week without feeling angry. It’s part of being human. We can get wound up by the antics of others, by the things that get in our way, by the fact that life isn’t fair, or by people being disrespectful. The feeling of anger isn’t really a problem. It’s what we do with it that sometimes gets us into trouble.
It is a common experience to find ourselves in a bad mood after an argument? But, what can we can do about this, if anything?
We often hear about acts of forgiveness on the news. Some extraordinary people proclaim forgiveness for others who have committed heinous crimes against them. Forgiveness appears to be a noble and deeply moral thing to do. And then there’s also a lot of psychological research saying that forgiveness is associated with better physical and mental health and lower levels of depression. Which is all fine and dandy until you have someone you personally have to forgive!