At work, do you ever feel that everyone else seems to know exactly what they need to do whilst you are floundering? In the 1970’s psychological research identified a common experience that creates significant anxiety and unease, particularly in the workplace. This experience, often called the Imposter Syndrome, is where people feel that their achievements are a bit of a fluke, and that it is only a matter of time before people find them out. They feel that they are a fraud and not as competent as others around them.
Modern life can be exhausting. Trying to create greater calm is the antidote. But this antidote doesn’t happen by itself. We have to actively cultivate it.
We are all black-belt experts in busyness. Our minds have never been so busy. We get bombarded with information from our media and our focus is usually on fixed on what’s coming up or what we have to do next. Our mental chatter adds to the load. We worry about all the worst things that can happen in the future. Or we ruminate about things that have happened in the past. No wonder we are all so tired.
We all know that getting enough sleep is important but unfortunately, more than a third of us get less than six hours sleep each night. All of the recent research suggests that this may be putting our physical health at risk. Four lifestyle factors that are worth knowing about and giving a try if you want more sleep.
As Christmas approaches, we are reminded that not only is it a time for family and giving, but it is also a time when many people may feel a sense of isolation and loneliness. The John Lewis ad tugs at our heart-strings with the story of a young girl sending a message to a lonely old man on the moon. The ad’s strapline, “Show someone they are loved this Christmas”, dovetails well with Age UK’s seasonal message that, “No-one should have no-one this Christmas”.
Research has shown that the first three minutes of conversation with your partner will pretty much guarantee how it will end. Start off with all guns blazing and you are likely to have a pretty heated argument that is destined to end badly. Psychologists call this a “Harsh Startup”. In the harsh start-up we go from nought to sixty in five seconds flat and it generally involves some sort of criticism or sarcasm.
We all know that stress can be bad for our health. Not a day goes by without another news story telling us that it can cause a host of ailments such as, auto-immune problems, cardiovascular disease and premature ageing. But, whilst this may be true, exciting new research suggests that stress is more complex than we thought and has highlighted three areas where people can thrive well in the midst of stress.
It may seem strange but many people are quite surprised to learn that they have symptoms of depression. Many men, in particular, often fail to recognise or seek help when they are depressed.